Building Resilience

The 7 Steps to Creating Highly Successful Lives

“This book provides a very useful and accessible practical guide for teachers and parents to help them create a positive environment to support young people to build resilience and achieve success.”

 

Baroness Sue Campbell CBE

“There’s nothing more important to a young person’s learning than ‘resilience’. Without it they will never be the people they could become. Teachers are always trying to find ways to help students build it. Here is an invaluable map and set of strategies that will help teachers, parents and youngsters themselves to do just that. I wish I had had it at my side both as a parent and a teacher.”

 

Sir Tim Brighouse



This book provides a practical guide for teachers and parents about building resilience and character in young people. It is packed with explanations and exercises you can use in the classroom and directly with children of all ages.

It is aimed at people who share our values and beliefs that building resilience and other key attributes will give young people the best opportunity of fulfilling their full potential and living successful lives. Academic achievement is important, but having the confidence to try new things, being able to overcome even the biggest challenges and bouncing back from setbacks will ensure every young person makes the most of their abilities.

With Nicky Morgan, the Education Secretary and Tristram Hunt, her shadow, both competing to put forward the importance of schools teaching character and resilience and Ofsted consulting on inspecting teaching personal development, pupils ability to manage their own emotions and behaviour and being prepared for life in Britain today, there has never been a more important time for a highly practical guide to introducing these skills.

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Building Resilience
(The 7 Steps to Creating Highly Successful Lives)
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  • A simple personal resilience questionnaire that will allow every student to assess and score how resilient they currently are and what steps they should focus on to improve it
  • The ‘What is resilience’ one hour lesson plan to use in your classroom and school
  • The 15 minute guide to personal development in young people
  • Access to further resources to help you build resilience, including audio summaries of the main book chapters

Details of how to access these resources will be included with the book when it is sent to you.

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What are the 7 Steps (or 7 Ps) to Building Resilience?



Step 1: Place
People often put themselves in a place of comfort and security. Yet to develop confidence and resilience, you need to take risks and step outside your comfort zone.Step 2: Passion
Passion fuels progress and achievement and is the foundation of all motivation. Without passion, it is very difficult to bounce back when things go wrong or to push ahead to achieve goals and dreams.

Step 3: Purpose
While people want to achieve goals and be successful, what drives human beings is having meaning and purpose (a vision). Without a clear purpose it is very difficult to maintain motivation or be resilient when you have the inevitable knock backs.

Step 4: People
Life will always be full of challenges and people can succeed on their own, but the support of others will make a big difference. The people you mix with will have an impact on your resilience and it is important to realise that you have choices as to what you accept from others and that you also decide whether you let their actions or behaviours affect you (or not).

Step 5: Planning
No matter how clear your purpose, without goals and an action plan, it is likely to remain just a dream. Planning is about what you are willing to do, to achieve your goals in life and the importance of only focusing on those things that you can control.

Step 6: Positive Mindset
Mindset can be your greatest asset or your biggest critic. Positive mindset springs from positive thoughts and manifests itself in a ‘can do attitude’, regardless of what happens. The most effective way to build and maintain positive thinking is to be mindful and to learn to let negative thoughts go.

Step 7: Physical Action
Physical action has two dimensions; building physical capability; and taking action physically to make things happen. 
 The physical body plays a fundamental role in building resilience and character, as does committing time and energy to taking action.

The seven steps are a proven system that will build resilience and ensure that every individual makes the most of their unique talents. We have only touched very briefly on them here and the book shares many ways you and your students can learn and develop capability in each of the seven steps.

Introduction to Building Resilience

Young people are the world’s greatest asset. Every day presents an opportunity to learn the tools, knowledge, and wisdom, which will help them grow into successful adults, and make their mark in the world. As a teacher or parent, you can support them to develop their strengths, talents, and character to enable them to overcome any of life’s challenges. Resilience is important in life because it can make the difference between success and failure, growing or stagnating, flourishing or floundering. It underpins achieving potential and making dreams a reality. So why do so many of today’s students lack resilience? We have become risk averse as a society. Many parents no longer let their children play outside because of fear for their safety.As we have become more litigious, schools have moved to ban some school trips or more challenging activities, and before anything can be acted upon, an often onerous risk assessment process has to be undertaken. While managing risks appropriately is important, we have perhaps let the pendulum swing too far and are stopping our young people from taking risks and learning from them. In addition, we seem to spend so much of our time ‘spoon-feeding’ students to pass exams or watching them move through school on a conveyor belt, while we are too busy to provide the individual or character building attention that is often needed.

Multiple stakeholders have recognised this, including many school leaders and teachers. The Confederation of British Industry and global employers call for students to be ready to make their place in the world and Ofsted have indicated their desire to inspect how schools ‘teach’ personal development, enable students to better manage their own emotions and behaviours and to better understand the choices they have for further education and employment.

We have to have a greater focus on preparing them for a successful life after school, enabling them to self-manage and overcome the many challenges they will face – particularly for those from more challenging backgrounds. We realise that there is no one size fits all solution, and that the things we propose may not win favour with everyone or be right for every individual.

We have written a guide full of practical suggestions that we know will make a difference for many young people (and adults too) and you can choose the ones that you think will work for you and your students.

What is contained in this book is the start of a conversation that teachers and adults can have with students. It is about building resilience and character, and it is equally as important for young people as reading, writing, and mathematics. It probably underpins the reason that you wanted to be an educator – you were driven by a passion to help young people, as well as a love of the subjects you teach. It is equally relevant for parents who want to see their children thrive in a much more challenging and competitive world than the one in which they grew up. The book is written as a practical guide and shares seven clear steps you can take with young people to set them up to make the most of their life. It contains stories and exercises you can use to build resilience and other important skills that will give them the best chance of fulfilling their potential.

It is based on 20 years of experience working with and developing successful leaders in business, education and sport, and other elite performers, such as Olympians. We have spent much of this time helping people change the behaviours and habits that have often prevented them from achieving their goals. But rather than changing the habits for older people why don’t we focus on helping all young people develop the right positive habits that they can use for the whole of their successful lives.



Available Now
Building Resilience
(The 7 Steps to Creating Highly Successful Lives)
Order your copy for £13.95
+ get all these bonuses

  • A simple personal resilience questionnaire that will allow every student to assess and score how resilient they currently are and what steps they should focus on to improve it
  • The ‘What is resilience’ one hour lesson plan to use in your classroom and school
  • The 15 minute guide to personal development in young people
  • Access to further resources to help you build resilience, including audio summaries of the main book chapters

Details of how to access these resources will be included with the book when it is sent to you.

Order Now

   

Discounts available if ordering
5 or more books.
Contact mark@successfullives.co.uk for details.

You can also order the book at Amazon.co.uk.

What school leaders, teachers and other practitioners have to say?

We are a specialist support to inclusion, whose bread and butter is empowering learners to become emotionally literate, mindful self leaders. Your book reinforces all that is vital in this area, linking emotions to thoughts and actions and building happy, positive lives. Your book is a very easy read for teachers and is for all learners. It reaches out to the most disengaged but also gives solution focused strategies for switched-on learners.

Karen MuirHeadteacher, PPR Inclusion Service, Ladywell School, Glasgow

This is a much needed resource! ‘Building Resilience’ will help busy teachers infuse their lessons (and whole school culture) with the essential skills and qualities every individual needs to have in place in order to learn and to deal with life. This book helps to provide the frequently overlooked, and largely absent, foundations of education without which exam success can be difficult and/or meaningless. A little thought and a collective approach to putting these ideas into existing practice in a school, would transform the learning culture rapidly.

Linda LindanHead of Wellbeing, MERIT Medical PRU, Stoke-on-Trent

I really enjoyed the book – I think the thing I enjoyed the most was the fact that it’s packed full of stories and anecdotes but also suggested ways to use them with children and classes. I shall certainly be using a lot of these ideas in lessons, and particularly in assemblies.

Linda McQuoneDeputy Head, Blackminster School, Evesham

In order for children to be successful in school and into adult life it has become increasingly clear that we need to help build resilience in our children and young people. The value of a well-constructed curriculum, which teaches students how to learn, how to deal with life’s challenges and how to continue to grow despite setbacks is an essential element of modern education. Les and Mark’s book gives educators a range of clear ideas about how we can better provide for this essential component in the life of young people today.

Simon WhiteHead of School, Wellsway School, Bristol

I thought the book was great. It serves as a great reminder of what a teacher can do to impact the lives of students beyond the teaching of subject material. The stories of recognised names that they can relate to is really useful to show that the information is real as opposed to yet another ‘theory’ made up by some old teacher type. I am forever trying to incorporate more work on resilience through whole school PSHE and this book will allow me to direct staff to the evidence to support my claims. I see a rise in stress every year and you hit the nail on the head in the book as to why this is. Thankfully, the book now sets out a clear path towards helping reduce this trend.

Chris EvansHead of Key Stage 4, Heckmondwike Grammar School, Heckmondwike

’Building Resilience’ should be a key document to accompany the reviewed national curriculum. It is an easy to read, practical guide for primary and secondary practitioners to use when planning lessons or assemblies for children as part of their SMSC education. The success stories provide tangible examples to illustrate the importance of resilience as a skill, which all children need to support their development and prepare them for life in modern Britain.

Liz McIntoshHeadteacher, Tunbury Primary School, Chatham, Kent

I spent a rewarding evening reading your book. That in itself is a quality – a busy teacher will have time for this. It is a useful refresher for experienced teachers and I would recommend it to new members of the teaching profession. It could also be regarded as a self-help tool for Sixth Formers.

Kathryn HardyHeadteacher, The Urswick School, Hackney, London

Your book is just so timely – it seems to be the hot topic for staff and parents – it’s good that we acknowledge that resilience can be taught and also reassuring that their anxieties can be mostly lessened. Being able to signpost to the whole book or specific parts will be very useful – when is it going to print? I know many of my staff will be wanting to buy!

Richard BrownDeputy Head, Allestree Woodlands School, Derby

I thoroughly enjoyed reading the book – it is written in such an engaging way with real examples in abundance – and with a wide range of practical ways for teachers to undertake what is such an important part of their role! Thank you for sharing the book with me – it really was a pleasure to read it and I now have a number of ideas (in addition to using the Successful Lives programme) for how to build resilience within our young people.

Helen BlachfordCurriculum Leader PSCHE, Priory School, Southsea

Your book does not really define resilience against the criteria that Moore and others use and in that sense, it is a fresh departure from the work of Bonnie Bernard and Werner and Smith that originated in North America. It also offers another perspective on Lyn Worsley’s ‘resilience doughnut.’ As a motivational tool I can take much from this and am keen to explore at least some of the steps here at Merchant Taylors’, including looking at DISC profiling. There is little doubt that at a time when the need to motivate students has never been greater, books such as this allow us to explore a range of approaches.

Bob SimpsonDeputy Headmaster, Merchant Taylors’ Boys, Crosby

I love the introduction/foreword, as it explains the context very clearly and without jargon. Anyone could pick it up and understand easily. I thought that the seven steps were also explained very clearly and concisely, and were quite inspirational! I liked that the book is not too heavy on academic theory, which makes it an enjoyable read. I also liked the two simple steps for teachers about sharing and developing resilience with students, which is crucial.

Michaela Sill Assistant Principal / Consultant Leader, Ossett Academy and Sixth Form College, Ossett

I really enjoyed the book, it contains valuable advice for teachers, parents and young people, tempered with anecdotal and real-life stories which brings the theory to life. I particularly enjoyed the DISC and Grow sections and felt they were accessible and applicable to a range of situations, for both adults and young people. The appendix guide to the seven steps is a useful reminder of the key points of the book; it is a quick reference guide, which is useful for refreshing the most important points.

Nikki WallCounsellor, St. Peters Catholic Voluntary Academy, Middlesborough

The book maintains the attention of the reader because it challenges and encourages reflection on current practice and provides the opportunity to think about how learning can be more effective for the young people involved in the process. The activities provided help the reader to explore the ideas in some depth and engage with the content. The seven steps is a systematic approach to build resilience that can easily be followed as a guide by professionals working in education. Tutors would also benefit from the ideas in the book and it would stimulate thinking and planning to make tutoring more effective in supporting young people to make progress in their learning.

Phil JonesAssociate Headteacher, Head of The Stanway Federation learning Centre, Stanway, Essex

Really enjoyed reading this and it has come at a great moment in education when the well being, mental and physical, of pupils is a hot topic. Rightly so, given the new pressure faced by young people today, pressures that I for one never had to cope with. Overall, I think this book would be a fantastic addition to schools that are genuinely making an effort to build resilience.

Eddie FalshawDeputy Head, Leighton Park School, Reading

Schools are taking an increasing interest in learning skills, which includes resilience. Your book talks about resilience in broad terms for being successful in life and developing skills employers value. Schools are equally interested in resilience and probably willing to invest time to develop resilience to enable their pupils to not give up when work appears hard. I’m sure colleagues in the world of education will find the book accessible and useful.

David WoodhouseCo-ordinator, Liverpool Learning Trust

In general, I like the concept and it will certainly be a useful tool for pastoral staff. The lesson activities are well structured and adaptable to different age groups. The material is thought-provoking and well organised. I particularly like the quotes and stories, which are dotted though the book to illustrate the issues under consideration.

Pauline CrothersHead of Third Year, Kingston Grammar School

I have very much enjoyed reading it. As a coach, teacher and parent it rings true on every front. In my professional role as a teacher coach I work with adults who have set demanding goals and I am often very interested to observe their resilience when times are tough. I haven’t ever really considered my role in developing their resilience before, I’ve just expected it of them, and frequently picked up the pieces when things have not gone to plan. This book has given me a step by step guide to help these adults to become more resilient, to think positively and change the main focus of their ‘self-talk’ to a more positive one. I hadn’t thought it was something that could or needed to be taught.

Ursie PhayreMentor teacher and Teacher coach in a group of schools in Kenya and Tanzania

Available Now
Building Resilience
(The 7 Steps to Creating Highly Successful Lives)
Order your copy for £13.95
+ get all these bonuses

  • A simple personal resilience questionnaire that will allow every student to assess and score how resilient they currently are and what steps they should focus on to improve it
  • The ‘What is resilience’ one hour lesson plan to use in your classroom and school
  • The 15 minute guide to personal development in young people
  • Access to further resources to help you build resilience, including audio summaries of the main book chapters

Details of how to access these resources will be included with the book when it is sent to you.

Order Now

   

Discounts available if ordering
5 or more books.
Contact mark@successfullives.co.uk for details.

You can also pre-order the book at Amazon.co.uk.